4 Rules for Asking for Feedback

feedbackIt isn’t easy to know how you’re doing these days.

This is Caroline, Curtis’ Millennial marketing manager, and I don’t know if it’s a certain neediness for affirmation of our generation or a reticence of the one before us—or some combination of the two—but I do know that Millennials want feedback, and we aren’t getting enough of it.

In his keynote, Curtis demonstrates that leading the new Millennial workforce is completely different—we need applause (or constructive criticism) every step of the way.

Our predecessors, however, aren’t always so responsive.

That’s why we have to ask for feedback.

It’s harder than it sounds, because you have to be prepared for the fact that you may not like what they have to say. But if you can forge through the discomfort, you increase your potential to grow in your job, to learn the skills you need, and to show your employer that you aren’t satisfied with being mediocre.

Today, I want you to try asking for feedback. Go into your superior’s office and ask about a specific project—ask what they liked, what they didn’t like, what could have been better. If you’re going to try this, though, you have to remember these four rules:

1) Don’t defend yourself. Now is not the time to respond to their critique—you’re not there to give feedback on their feedback. Listen quietly and just take it all in.

2) Bring a pencil and a paper, and as they give you feedback, take notes, even if you intend to throw it in the garbage later. This shows that you respect them and you take their opinions seriously.

3) Your attitude is everything. Think about body language. Sit up, smile, be engaged, nod, lean into their words. Leaning back in your chair with your arms crossed just says that you disagree and are feeling defensive.

4) Before you leave, thank them and say how much you appreciate their honesty. They have just shared lessons that they had to learn the hard way with you—be thankful for the opportunity to learn and grow.

Do you make a habit of asking for feedback? How have others responded? Comment below and share your experience with us!

*Image courtesy ADG Creative

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